The Grieving Chapter

I finally got to the chapter about grieving. This chapter gave the best ways to deal with The entire time I was reading the chapter I thought about my parents. To be honest I don't know what I am going to do when my parents pass away. It is so hard to think about. My mother is like one of my best friends and even though I am grown now she still goes out her way to help me out in any way possible. I think that no matter what my sister and I are we still always be her babies. Now as for my father he has 6 children but we are all close and all close to him. Now the chapter talks about dealing with the lost and how you should talk about how you are feeling and avoid holding it in. It also said that it is ok to grieve but try not to grieve for too long. A lot of what was said in the chapter was common sense but I agreed with everything that he said in the chapter. I just hope that when that time comes we as a family all need to pull together and lift each other up.

Chaoter 14 Adjusting to her new surroundings.

Hello bloggers long time! Well I am on chapter 14 which was about his mother finally decided to move to Orlando i her own place still but closer to the family. At first it was very hard for her to adjust to the new surroundings and the much smaller living space. The condo that she lived in was almost two time larger than the place in Orlando. We she got to town they tried showing her around and making her feel at home but the more they tried the more she rejected the idea. After a while she did settle in and once she got involved in her community she began to be satisfied with her decision.

I think we have all been in situations like this. I could remember moving to Orlando from Georgia and believe me I wanted to kick and scream. When we first got here everyone who knew how much we hated the idea of having to move here would tell us we will be fine just get out meet people and get involved and we will soon love it. They were right once I got her and met new friends I fell in love with this Disney City. In the manuscript the author made a great Recommendation #42: Do not be Afraid to Employ and Rely on the Sound Advice of Others More Knowledgeable than You about a Difficult but Necessary Decision. This was a great recommendation because generally people who have been through something before usually know a little more about it than you will.

Ch. 5 Dying and Death

Hello bloggers long time! Well I got back to my reading and one of the chapters that stood out to me the most was chapter 5 which is titled Dying and Death. This chapter is based on the last few months of life. How the family prepares and deals with what is soon to come. One point that stood out to me the most was the recommendation #22: Be Prepared for the ‘Ups’ and ‘Downs’ and create a plan. This was one thing that I can say that most people are uncomfortable doing because they don't want to face the fact that a love one is slipping away. Well the recommendation tells us to make a plan. Discuss it with the love one and the family. Be ready to accept that everyone will not agree with the plan. Then basically be there for each other. Comfort each other though this tough time.

This is honestly one thing that I can say that I am not ready to go through. Of course we have discussed death and arrangements with my parents but it is one thing to talk about it and another to have to actually prepare for it. My mother wants to be cremated and want her aches poured into an ocean that way if anyone wants to go pay their respects they can go to any body of water light a candle and say a short prayer. My father wants to be buried in our large family plot. That is all we have planned so far but we know that there is much more to it than that. I know that my mother doesn't want to suffer if she is ever really sick but still someone will have to decide when enough is enough and when we think it is time to let her go. The story said how everyone want their love ones to gave a good death which is not possible, because even it they are not in pain or they die in their sleep rather quickly death will never be viewed as a good one in any ones eyes. I know what we have to do and I know that when it comes down to it we will all get through it together.

Great Recommendations in Ch. 2

I found chapter 2 to be very informative. To be completely honestly some of the recommendations of how to deal with our elders or older parents and grand parents should have been common sense. An common sense recommendation was #3, Give your aging parent of space. If you think about it everyone need their space and we tend to for get that older people do too. That is not to say that they don't get lonely and that we should abandon them but we do need to know when to allow them to have some time to themselves. Recommendation #12 says Listen carefully to the concerns of the Senior Citizen under your care. I think this is a great recommendation because it helps you to better know how to care for a person when you can take care of their concerns or at least reassure them that it is or will be taken care of. I think that one of the most important recommendation mentioned in the reading was # 7, which says to make plans for the end of life and allow active input. This is very very important because thins can happen out of no where and you wan to know how to handle the situation and what they would have wanted you to do. I have already had this conversation with my parents and my mother is only in her late 40s and my father in his early 50s but you never know.

I did not get the opportunity to grow up with grand parents because my mother's parents passed away when she was a young girl and my father's parents passed away when I was a young child. Although I did not get to interact with them I encounter a lot of elderly people as I volunteer at the hospital once a week and reading this chapter will help me to know how to handle the different conversations with the various people I meet there.

Hello All... I read chapter one of Raising a Parent.

Let me start by saying that this seems like it may actually be a pretty good read. As I read the first chapter of the manuscript Raising A Parent - The Experiences of One Family By: Aaron Liberman. I found myself identifying with the Arthur as he talked about how parent make you do a lot of things when you are young that you usually hate doing but it is usually for your benefit in the long run I did not go through any of the same things that he talked about specifically but I did have my fair share of stuff I could remember.

I liked the way he kind of broke down the mind set of an elderly person as they watch all of their close friends and love ones pass on. I never thought about how depressing that could be. I could very well see how some older people are bitter and grumpy now. Maybe they just don't have much to look forward to anymore. They may even be ready to go on to be with their love ones and friends. That is not to say that they don't love us who are still left here on earth.